When Love Is a Lie - Narcissistic Partners & the (Pathological) Relationship Agenda

by Zari Ballard

Overview

Developing a codependency to a partner who has a narcissistic or psychopathic personality will cause nothing but turmoil in our lives. We stay in the relationship, thinking that we can "fix" this person and love them out of their bad behavior, but the truth is that narcissists - just like sociopaths and psychopaths - can never be fixed...not with love, therapy, or any magic pill Our codependency and suffering fulfills the narcissist's pathological relationship agenda and makes them feel alive.

Do the behaviors of your partner continually cause you to feel suspicious or uncomfortable? Are you being subjected to silent treatments and other forms of maddening passive-aggressive punishments? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells trying to avoid a hurtful silent treatment or narcissistic confrontation? Does it appear that your partner creates chaos (even during good times) just to keep you feeling anxious and insecure? Are you making yourself crazy trying to figure it all out? Answer "yes" to one or all of the above and it's likely you're involved with someone who a narcissistic personality disorder.

When Love Is a Lie is an informational anecdote that helps you to recognize the narcissistic abuse, understand your codependency to the chaos, and then get on the right path to mentally breaking free from the nonsense. Breaking free mentally is the key to breaking free altogether from someone with a narcissistic or psychopathic tendencies and Ms. Ballard provides a way to begin this process. She offers a logical perspective that comes complete with reasons for leaving that you simply can't argue against! It is a doable solution that will get you on the right path to becoming narcissist-free...

Understand how and why a partner with a narcissistic or psychopathic personality...

....will never be able to attain - or even pretend to have - the very special and love-worthy human qualities (the undeniable truths!) that are essential to life itself. Use these truths as a foolproof way to begin mentally breaking free from a narcissist!

....will, over time, deliberately and methodically manage down our relationship expectations so that we expect less and less and he gets away with more

....will use the Silent Treatment and similar demoralizing methods of control to punish those who dare to call them out on questionable behaviors

....will create constant chaos and turmoil even - and especially - during the "good" times as a tactic of keeping you in a heightened state of co-dependent anxiety

....will juggle many, many relationships at once - often for years on end - with no one being the wiser...not even you

....lies even when the truth is a better story

When Love is a Lie provides confirmation and validation that, indeed, you are neither alone nor crazy. This little book may just have the magic answer....the perspective you've been looking for...the reality check you need to leave the abusive lover and find your way back to the sane world...

Product Details

BN ID:	2940044646032
Publisher:	Zari Ballard
Publication date:	06/10/2013
Sold by:	Smashwords
Format:	eBook
Sales rank:	462,209
File size:	216 KB
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Zari is a Freelance Writer/Author (and single mom) who resides with her son in sunny Tucson, AZ. Born and raised in Rhode Island, Zari, then an aspiring journalist, graduated from Rhode Island College with a B A in Mass Media Communications/English and headed out from the ocean state for a life in the Southwest.

In 2005, when her son's diagnosis with child-onset schizophrenia changed everything, Zari set aside the executive rat race in lieu of a home-based career as a Freelance Writer. A leap of faith that could have gone either way, the choice to work from home was meant-to-be and she has never looked back.

Motivated by the success of her first book, "When Love Is a Lie", Zari has since published four additional books about narcissism in relationships: "Stop Spinning, Start Breathing", a journal-style workbook about narcissist abuse recovery, "Narcissism In a Nutshell", a quick start guide to understanding narcissistic behaviors, "When Evil Is a Pretty Face", providing support for male victims of female narcissists, and now, in 2021, "Vacancy In the (Relationship) Rabbit Hole", a complete guide to a full recovery from narcissist abuse.

Zari continues to provide support to narcissist abuse victims via one-on-one counseling, through her website, thenarcissisticpersonality.com, and also at her YouTube channel where she discusses in detail all aspects of narcissism in relationships.