I let my girlfriend barrow this book before we became involved not only as a way to show her my lifestyle choices but also as a way to educate her and dispel some of the myths surrounding the BDSM subject. We have been together for several years now and have handed this book out to at least 25 of our friends who were curious or ignorant. Either way a great starter from an author actually involved in the scene. Highly recommended to anyone no matter what their experience level.
February 13, 2004
Great introductory SM book!
Jay teaches the fundamentals of BDSM in his usual conversational style. Never talking down to his audience, his purpose is to inform, whether it's about a particular technique to try or to caution about a potentially dangerous activity. The book has chapters about a number of different topics ranging from bondage, finding other partners, whipping, doing SM 'safely' (using barrier protection), and even a chapter for novice 'Dommes.' This book was one of the first SM books I ever bought. I highly recommend it!
February 28, 2000
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction
Those in the SM scene have been handing out this book like candy to potential partners, caring families, and inquisitive friends. There's no better way to let them see the truth about sadomasochism and the SM scene than to let them read SM101, by a man who has been active in it for more than twenty years. He shows that, rather than the cold, brutal world of pain and humiliation that outsiders often imagine, SM is a way of loving playfully and intensely. For those whose desires drive them to try it out themselves, he provides easy instructions and safety hints in many of the most common areas. He also gives ideas on finding compatable partners, making connections in the SM community, and finding resources on-line. Many players won't play with someone who hasn't read this book!
February 23, 2000