Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals

by Rachel Hollis, Rachel Hollis (Read by)

Overview

Rachel Hollis, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Girl, Wash Your Face and host of the top-rated Rise podcast, urges women to stop apologizing for their desires, hopes, and dreams and instead to go after them with passion and confidence.

Rachel Hollis has seen it too often: women being afraid of their own goals. They’re afraid of embarrassment, of falling short of perfection, of not being enough. But the biggest fear of all is of being judged for having ambition at all.

Having been taught to define themselves in light of other people—whether as wife, mother, daughter, friend, or team member—many women have forgotten who they are and what they were meant to be. In Girl, Stop Apologizing, entrepreneur and online personality (TheChicSite.com) Rachel Hollis encourages women to own their hopes, desires, and goals and reminds them they don’t need permission to want more. With a call to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and the biggest possible version of their lives.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781721348091
Publisher:	HarperCollins Focus
Publication date:	03/05/2019
Edition description:	Unabridged
Product dimensions:	5.30(w) x 6.70(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Rachel laid the foundation for her lifestyle brand and media company with the same unfiltered honesty and staunch inclusivity that made her a three-time New York Times bestselling author. Hollis connects with a highly engaged and growing global audience of women who treasure her transparency and optimism. She is one of the most sought-after motivational speakers, plays host to some of today’s top podcasts, and is a proud mama of four who uses her platform to empower and embolden women around the world. Rachel calls Texas home; more specifically, the Hill Country just outside of Austin.

Table of Contents

Introduction: What If ix

Part I Excuses to Let Go Of

Excuse 1 That's Not What Other Women Do 3

Excuse 2 I'm Not a Goal-Oriented Person 16

Excuse 3 I Don't Have Time 20

Excuse 4 I'm not Enough to Succeed 29

Excuse 5 I Can't Pursue My Dream and Still Be a Good Mom/Daughter/Employee 41

Excuse 6 I'm Terrified of Failure 52

Excuse 7 It's Been Done before 59

Excuse 8 What Will They Think? 66

Excuse 9 Good Girls Don't Hustle 76

Part II Behaviors to Adopt

Behavior 1 Stop Asking Permission 87

Behavior 2 Choose One Dream and Go All In 95

Behavior 3 Embrace Your Ambition 108

Behavior 4 Ask for Help! 112

Behavior 5 Build Foundations for Success 121

Behavior 6 Stop Allowing Them to Talk You Out of It 138

Behavior 7 Learn to Say No 145

Part III Skills to Acquire

Skill 1 Planning 153

Skill 2 Confidence 167

Skill 3 Persistence 181

Skill 4 Effectiveness 187

Skill 5 Positivity 197

Skill 6 Lead-Her-Ship 201

Conclusion: Believe in Your Dang Self! 207

Acknowledgments 211

About the Author 213

Notes 215

Editorial Reviews

★ 01/14/2019

Hollis (Girl, Wash Your Face) presents strategies for women to pursue their ambitions in this passionate guide to building confidence. She wants readers to know that she “did not wake up” motivated and organized and relates stories of personal struggle to illustrate how lies can hold women back; particularly revealing is her discussion of her decision to undergo breast augmentation, which she originally believed was “artificial and vapid” but later realized “would make me feel more confident.” Being open about her own priorities (herself, her marriage, her kids, and her work, in that order), Hollis writes with an authority that feels grounded and tested: “So stop waiting for someday; someday is a myth. Don’t wait to have the time; start planning to make the time.” Hollis’s plan comes in three phases: letting go of excuses (such as being unworthy of success or paralyzed by fear of failure), adopting new practices (asking for help, learning to say no), and honing new skills (organization, and optimism). She also provides a list of practices she calls the “five to thrive”: proper hydration, waking up earlier, giving up one unhealthy food for 30 days, daily movement, and daily faith-based gratitude practices. Hollis’s writing is beautifully blunt, and she humbly thanks her fans for her success. Her actionable ideas and captivating voice will encourage women to believe in themselves. (Mar.)

Publishers Weekly

'Girl, Stop Apologizing is an unflinchingly relatable manifesto that is as unapologetic as it gets. Each chapter is an espresso shot that kickstarts your 'can-do-itude' and challenges you to reach further and higher to achieve your goals.' —Arlan Hamilton, founder and managing director of Backstage Capital

'Girl, Stop Apologizing is the life-changing guide (and permission!) we've all needed to dump our excuses, embrace our dreams, set boundaries, and gain real confidence and momentum in life. It's how to overcome a 'lifetime of people pleasing' and start crafting the vibrant, authentic life you deserve. This is a must-read for taking your destiny into your own hands. I loved every page!' —Brendon Burchard, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Millionaire Messenger, The Motivation Manifesto, and High Performance Habits

'Rachel Hollis is a force of inspiration who is impacting the world on a massive level. Her unapologetic message of self-worth will continue to transform lives for many decades to come.' —Trent Shelton, author, motivational speaker, and founder and CEO of RehabTime

'Rachel Hollis is a live-out-loud leader with a heart for helping women tenaciously chase their purpose and dreams without apology. Rachel's ability to share stories and principles with raw honesty inspires her readers to discover and take the practical steps that will put them on a lifelong path of personal growth.' —Dr. John C. Maxwell, author and leadership expert

'Rachel is the leader in modern-day personal development for a reason. Her authenticity, vulnerability, and experience separate her from everyone else. She just knows how to 'get real' in a way that is unapologetically Rachel.' —Ed Mylett, entrepreneur, personal development coach, speaker and host of the Ed Mylett Show podcast

'Rachel is the modern-day Oprah and female Tony Robbins! She provides a safe place for women to dream big and believe in themselves, while also giving the tough love all great moms give to their kids to take ownership of their life and providing the keys to succeed. Rachel is raw, real, and full of life. She combines emotion, humor, and straight-talk to make all of us believe and see how we can have the life we want if we've invested the time and learned how to get there. Get this book and stop apologizing!' —Lewis Howes, New York Times bestselling author and host of The School of Greatness

'Rarely does a follow-up book surpass the first, yet in Girl, Stop Apologizing, Rachel blows everything out of the water. She's your wise sister, doling out insightful, on-point advice that literally has the power to change your life.' —Courtney Cole, New York Times bestselling author

'Reading Girl, Stop Apologizing is like sitting down with a best friend who can speak deeply into the dark places you've been trying to hide and shines a light on them. Rachel has the ability to help you silence your inner mean girl while encouraging you to believe that you truly can change and become the woman you've always envisioned yourself to be. Rachel's gift is in giving you permission to not feel alone or ashamed of where you've been, while also giving you hope and a plan for what's ahead of you. Her voice in my ear has been a guiding light to pursue greatness and more for this one life I am living.' —Jenna Kutcher, photographer, podcaster, educator, and host of The Goal Digger Podcast

'Though energy-evoking, motivation alone isn't enough to actually move the needle in your life. Rachel Hollis gets this at the deepest level possible. Girl, Stop Apologizing is a true masterpiece that combines heartfelt inspiration with the perfect mix of tools and a framework that can allow you to effectively adopt new behaviors and skills in your life that create real and lasting change.' —Dean Graziosi, New York Times bestselling author, entrepreneur, and investor

'Ever felt stuck? Ever struggled to make time for your dreams—or struggled even to admit those dreams to yourself? In Girl, Stop Apologizing, Rachel Hollis points out the pitfalls, challenges, and excuses that stop us from achieving our aims. She speaks with refreshing (and often hilarious) candor about her own experiences and mistakes, and offers concrete advice about how to create the lives we want.' —Gretchen Rubin, New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project

'It's time to truly embrace your greatness, and there is no better rally cry than Girl, Stop Apologizing. Unapologetic herself, Rachel is the fearless girlfriend you need to help you leap into the bold unknown and fulfill that big audacious goal you have been waiting to achieve. And that's a movement I'm thrilled to be a part of.' —Amy Porterfield, online marketing expert

From the Publisher

Author-narrator Rachel Hollis pulls no punches with this manifesto in which she exhorts women to claim the lives that they've always wanted. She sounds direct, confident, and kind. Her warm, down-to-earth style makes this listening experience like having your best friend or a life coach as close as your pocket or earphones. In a friendly tone she lists the main reasons why women don't achieve their dreams or ambitions—such as living their lives in terms of other people—and encourages them to avoid such pitfalls. This is an inspirational title that fans will have on their playlist to listen to again and again. M.R. © AudioFile 2019, Portland, Maine

JUNE 2019 - AudioFile

Author-narrator Rachel Hollis pulls no punches with this manifesto in which she exhorts women to claim the lives that they've always wanted. She sounds direct, confident, and kind. Her warm, down-to-earth style makes this listening experience like having your best friend or a life coach as close as your pocket or earphones. In a friendly tone she lists the main reasons why women don't achieve their dreams or ambitions—such as living their lives in terms of other people—and encourages them to avoid such pitfalls. This is an inspirational title that fans will have on their playlist to listen to again and again. M.R. © AudioFile 2019, Portland, Maine

JUNE 2019 - AudioFile