Food Addiction No More: 21 Days to Change Your Mind on Overeating for Good

by Monika Kloeckner

Overview

Your food addiction can have many causes: childhood abuse, relationship breakups, issues with your parents, the absence of unconditional love, or body image problems. In this inspirational book, author and advanced theta healing practitioner Monika Kloeckner takes you on a journey to the depths of your subconscious mind and helps you to unblock your hidden limiting beliefs that may have caused your food addiction. Monika describes her own experiences and insights that helped her overcome her food addiction with an extraordinary healing modality: Theta Healing.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781452578781
Publisher:	Balboa Press
Publication date:	09/03/2013
Pages:	158
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.34(d)

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Food Addiction No More

21 Days to Change Your Mind on Overeating for Good

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By Monika Kloeckner

Balboa Press

Copyright © 2013 Monika Kloeckner
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4525-7878-1

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CHAPTER 1

Day 1: My self-esteem is growing day by day

Your self-esteem is greatly influenced by the experiences of your childhood. Experiences such as abuse, including emotional abuse or trauma are deeply stored in your subconscious mind. In the same way, the absence of emotional needs, such as affection, leave their imprints in your subconscious mind too.

However, if you had a happy childhood there is still a chance to develop low self-esteem in other areas of your life. These are divorce, bereavement of a loved one (person or pet), redundancy, bankruptcy or eviction from your own home.

I still remember how my self-esteem decreased. When I entered primary school I had a healthy self-esteem. I was bubbly, cheerful and was friends with everyone in my class. This changed when my maths teacher told me that I am useless at the subject. I would be able to learn foreign languages, but I would never learn the science of mathematics. That said, I took it to heart and believed what she said. She was the life experienced person after all. Being told at an early age that I am no good at mathematics influenced my decision not to apply for any job that would involve mathematics. In the end, I opted for a job in sales.

This scenario shows that children are influenced by adults at an early age. Most of us believe what we are told is true. With every unsatisfactory exam result in mathematics my self-esteem sunk more and more. I felt as if I have failed.

Here is another story which one of my best friends has told me.

Helga took private guitar lessons since she was eleven years old. In her group was just her and another girl. They both loved learning to play the instrument. Helga's teacher seemed to have a crush on her. During one of the lessons he made a comment about her tight t-shirt. He thought that she looks like a real scout. He was breathing down her neck while he was showing her new accords on the guitar. Helga was not prepared for those unexpected advances. She confided in her parents. But they thought their daughter is making up excuses to cancel her guitar lessons. However, my friend stopped attending the classes in the end.

These two scenarios show that your low self-esteem has its roots in childhood. However, your self-esteem can crumble at any stage in your life.

Here are possible options:

• Divorce or relationship break-up

• Redundancy

• Failing your exams

• Bankruptcy

• Poor self-image

• Not feeling good enough

• Being humiliated in front of other people

Your self-esteem may have suffered in recent times, but I am sure that you have been able to succeed in several situations. You may not think that this is important to note, but it is. The more you think about the success you already had the more your self-esteem will rise again.

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Theta Healing™—Exercise

Digging suggestions:

I am good enough. I am loved. I am respected. I blame others (myself). I criticize others (myself).

Useful digging questions:

When did my self-esteem start to crumble?

How did I feel?

What happened?

When did it happen?

And then what would happen?

How do I know that?

What is the worst thing that could happen? (By asking this question repeatedly, you begin to dig deeper and deeper to the key core belief).

Keep asking open questions (How ...? When ...?, What ...?, Who ...?, Why ...?)

1. Using the 10 steps of successful self-healing

2. Connect with the Creator of All That Is by going up to the 7th plane of existence.

3. Allow the Creator to take your awareness to the relevant part of your brain.

4. Witness the healing until complete.

5. Ground yourself.

CHAPTER 2

Day 2: I know how to live my life without stress

It may sound unusual, but my frustration about being overweight stresses me out. Does that apply to you too?

It stresses me out because I don't know why I can't overcome my food addiction. What I do know is that whenever I eat comfort food I feel pleasure at first. A short while later I feel guilty for eating thousands of calories again.

Let us take a burger meal with fries and a soft drink. This meal has not only zero nutrition to offer, but feeds you with thousands of calories. They settle nicely on my hips. And that is where they stay for a very long time.

Guilt, frustration stresses me always out. I am frustrated because I don't know how I got so big in the first place. I don't know how to tackle the problem. I feel that there may be something wrong with me.

There must be something wrong with me because people in the street seem to stare at me because I am fat. The more often people stare at me I feel more and more rejected by society. I don't go out anymore. Whenever my friends ask me to join them on a night out I would find an excuse not to go. Most of my female friends were slim and I felt that I didn't fit in with the crowd I used to hang out anymore. I felt that they would judge me for being too fat.

When I got even more stressed due to work and commuting, I only found comfort in eating takeaway food and a bottle of wine. I enjoyed nights-in in front of the TV. This was my kind of relaxation after a hard day at work. I couldn't be more wrong.

I came to a point when I noticed that my hips had grown over my trousers. It was an ugly sight. I was not able to wear neither my size 12 jeans nor my skimpy T-shirts and blouses anymore. I had only two choices. First choice would be to accept that I have reached size 14 to 16, depending on the clothes I would try on. Or I had the choice to find out the reasons for my compulsive eating habit.

I started trying out various suggested diets in magazines. When the diets failed I joined a weight loss group. I learned from those diets that I have to restrict my calorie counting and I would reduce my weight. The thought of counting my calories stressed me out again. Other diets suggested that I have to omit eating certain foods. What? I thought I can't eat what I like? Stress set in again. Weight loss gurus all over the world suggest joining the gym to burn calories. When am I supposed to go to the gym? I work a forty hour week. All I can think of is stress. And that triggers my compulsive overeating habits.

What keeps your compulsive overeating going? What kind of stress triggers it?

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Theta Healing™—Exercise

Digging suggestions:

Success is mine. I know how to live my life without stress. I know how to relax. I am important. I identify stress and release it.

Useful digging questions:

When am I stressed?

Why I am stressed?

When was the first time I felt stressed?

How do I feel when I am stressed?

What stresses me out?

How do I know that?

What is the worst thing that could happen? (By asking this question repeatedly, you begin to dig deeper and deeper to the key core belief).

Keep asking open questions (How ...? When ...?, What ...?, Who ...?, Why ...?)

1. Using the 10 steps of successful self-healing

2. Connect with the Creator of All That Is by going up to the 7th plane of existence.

3. Allow the Creator to take your awareness to the relevant part of your brain.

4. Witness the healing until complete.

5. Ground yourself.

CHAPTER 3

Day 3: I know how to implement exercise into your daily life

If you are like me, than you have already said too many times that you don't have time to exercise. I know exactly where you are coming from. I used to say that I have too much work to do. I work too many hours in the work. I need to relax when I am off work.

What does it look like when you relax? What do you do to relax? For me it meant that I would sit on my comfortable sofa and watch morning TV which that was extended into the afternoon. Watching TV can make you hungry. Researchers say that the more entertaining the program is the more you feel you need to eat. Whenever I watch a food commercial I can't help going into the kitchen to find something tasty. And that is usually not an apple or raw vegetables. My taste buds are demanding something like crisps or taco bells with a spicy dip. This is one of the reasons why I have gained weight so rapidly. No exercise, watching TV all day, and eating crisps and other high calorie foods.

Apart from not having the time I always was good at procrastinating. I always would say that I begin to exercise tomorrow. And straight away I came up with an excuse not to begin the next day because I would meet up with friends for a drink and dinner. Then I decided to start going for walks the next week. In the meantime I consumed pizzas, a bottle of wine and any other processed food I can imagine. When the next week arrived I was again not ready to start my exercises. I kept putting it off week by week.

The key to success is to take baby steps every day. First, determine what your long term goal is. Do you want to be physically fit? Or do you want to reduce your weight because you are getting married? As soon as you have established your goal you need to decide by when you want to have achieved it. In three months? In six months? In one year?

Promise yourself to start going for your first walk TODAY. Don't postpone it until tomorrow just because it is raining outside. It is fun going for a walk in the rain. Take your boots and your umbrella and off you go! Walk for just ten minutes and then walk back home. Increase your daily walk time by ten minutes. Burning off calories depends on how quick you walk.

A pedometer helped me to count the calories I lost. This pedometer also helped me to stay motivated. Because the more calories it showed me I had lost, the more I wanted to walk. Try it out if you like.

Naturally, you will experience set backs from time to time. These setbacks can be connected with work trouble, relationship issues, or with difficulties in paying your bills. Anything can throw you back into your sofa and you watch TV again, ruminating over the problems in your life.

When you experience any problems in your life your emotions come to the fore. Anger, frustration, anxiety, sadness, grief, or resentment plays an important part in overcoming procrastination. Any emotion or belief can get in the way of succeeding in engaging daily exercise.

The best way to find out what emotion or belief is keeping you from exercise is to find out what emotions it is that is holding you back. Find out when the problem not to be motivated started. Who is playing a significant role in your de-motivation? How did you feel when it happened? What would be the worst thing if you would never exercise again? What would be the long term implications?

Once you have found out what the key belief is in your situation you can move on. After releasing beliefs and replacing them with positive ones, you have gained new motivation.

You have achieved some success in regaining your motivation. How do you celebrate this little success? With every success I had in doing exercise I rewarded myself with a hot soaking bath and burned aromatherapy candles.

On other occasions I bought myself that book I wanted to read for a long time. Other options are treating me to a new manicure or massage, buying a new dress, or going to the cinema. It is needless to say that the reward should not be processed foods of any kind. You can work towards new rewards every week.

My own experience is that reducing your weight and getting fit does not happen overnight. It happens gradually. Begin with utmost determination and keep your goal in mind. I am sure you will succeed.

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Exercise:

1) Make a list of all the excuses you have not to do exercise.

2) Now make a list of how you can make time to implement exercise into your life TODAY!

3) What would you like to achieve with exercising? Do you want to exercise for health reasons? Or do you have other goals?

4) By what month do you want to have achieved the goal of exercising and reducing your weight?

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Theta Healing™—Exercise

Digging suggestions:

I know how to live my daily life doing exercise. I love exercise. I know how to implement exercise into my daily life. I like to exercise to relieve stress. I like to exercise.

Useful digging questions:

What is holding me back to start exercising regularly?

What would happen if ...?

What happened?

What happened next?

How do I know that?

What is the worst thing that could happen? (By asking this question repeatedly, you begin to dig deeper and deeper to the key core belief).

Keep asking open questions (How ...? When ...?, What ...?, Who ...?, Why ...?)

1. Apply the 10 steps of successful self-healing

2. Connect with the Creator of All That Is by going up to the 7th plane of existence.

3. Allow the Creator to take your awareness to the relevant part of your brain.

4. Witness the healing until complete.

5. Ground yourself

CHAPTER 4

Day 4: My body is beautiful

Whether you think your body is beautiful is influenced by quite a few factors. To me, the main factor of all is the mass media. Stick thin models on the cat walk and in magazines portray an incorrect image for teenagers and young people in their twenties. Girls as young as ten years of age go on diets for they want to look like their "role model" on the catwalk.

Unfortunately, even mannequins believe that being skinny equals confidence. But true confidence comes from the inside. If you accept yourself for the way you look, know your qualities as a human being, which means your personality and your intelligence, you will find it easier to find your body beautiful. Being beautiful does not mean that you can wear size 0. I once was very skinny. I reduced my weight by three stones and I looked very pale in my face. I had no curves left, but I thought that is what a woman needs to look like. My male colleagues acknowledged that I had the willpower to stay on a healthy diet for more than six months. But they also said that I don't look like a woman anymore, because I now have a flat chest and a flat bum. They asked me to gain some weight. So I did and I actually feel more feminine with my current curves. The picture of attractive skinny women has been impressed on us by the media. Real life men prefer "real" women with curves.

Please note that you have a beautiful body, no matter your dress size or visible scars you might have.

Many of you remember the British actress Dawn French. She is known for her role as a female vicar in the British series "The Vicar of Dibley" and various other roles in commercials and so on. She is a rather big lady, but she bursts with confidence, self-belief and humour. She is the proof that a woman doesn't need to be thin to be confident and have self-belief. Her laugh and happiness is irresistible.

Dawn French believes in herself, her values and qualities as a person.

The way you feel about your body image can be influenced by your parents' expectations. Their expectations and opinions about being slim also have been formed by their childhood experiences and the media. Unhelpful beliefs about looking slim and trim may give you the feeling not be loved and accepted as you are. It does not make you feel good. Being criticised by your own mother is never good. Our mothers often don't realize that their criticism can lead to low self-esteem, frustration and low moods. To make yourself feel better you eat comfort food. Reducing your weight may be a long way off. But we can't blame our mother for the well-meant suggestion to reduce our weight. She loves you and often she also believes in what the mass media tell us how to look. What I am saying is that our mothers want the best for us. They pick up other people's opinions from magazines, the news or the internet. They are as easily influenced by all the media frenzy as you are. The secret to success is to take one step at a time. A quick fix diet does not bring the results you are gaining for. Slowly does it, reducing your weight by one pound a week.

The puberty often sparks unhappiness about one's body image. This is a crucial time in your life. You might or might not be aware that the transition between childhood and adulthood is not easy. For most young women this time can be daunting and scary. And yet it can be exciting because you have entered the world of a grown up woman. Young men will acknowledge you for being feminine and attractive. It might not be your opinion about yourself. But people always see you differently than you see yourself. Be proud of your curves! Your body is beautiful the way it looks. Your curves are attractive. Celebrate them by buying yourself a flattering dress.

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Mirror exercise:

This is the "My body is beautiful—exercise": Stand in front of a full-length mirror or the largest you have. You can be dressed.

Advice: Your emotions will surface. Tears might come up. But this is all part of the healing process. I suggest that you have your notebook nearby and write down the emotions that will occur.

Begin by looking into the mirror and look at your body and face.

Then, say the following: I love my eyes. They are bright blue and have dark long eyelashes.

I love my teeth. They are white and straight.

I like my legs. They are well-formed and sexy.

I like and accept my hands. They are small and feminine.
(Continues...)

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Table of Contents

Contents

Introduction....................     xi     

Food Addiction Test....................     xiii     

The structure of the chapters....................     xv     

How to use this book....................     xvii     

My story....................     xix     

Part I – Theta Healing™....................          

Theta Healing™....................     1     

Believers and Non-believers....................     2     

Your belief network....................     4     

What is the key belief?....................     5     

The Four Commands....................     6     

Feelings work....................     9     

Energy testing....................     11     

The 10 steps to successful self-healing....................     13     

Are you ready to receive healing?....................     16     

Visualization....................     17     

The meditation to the 7th Plane of Existence....................     19     

Our Chakras....................     21     

A Theta Healing™ session—example....................     24     

Part II – Overcome your food addiction in 21 days I Well-being.............          

I. Well-being....................          

Day 1: My self-esteem is growing day by day....................     31     

Day 2: I know how to live my life without stress....................     34     

Day 3: I know how to implement exercise into your daily life...............     37     

II. My body....................          

Day 4: My body is beautiful....................     43     

Day 5: I love my body more and more....................     46     

Day 6: I nourish my body only with healthy food....................     49     

Day 7: I know how to nourish my body....................     53     

III. Relationships....................          

Day 8: My partner loves me just as I am....................     59     

Day 9: I am lovable....................     63     

IV. Your parents....................          

Day 10: I am loved by my father....................     69     

Day 11: I am loved by my mother....................     73     

Day 12: I know how to live my life without rejection....................     76     

V. Unconditional Love....................          

Day 13: You are loved unconditionally by the Creator of All That Is........     81     

Day 14: I know that love is all around me....................     84     

Day 15: I know how to live my life receiving love....................     86     

Day 16: I know how to live my life giving love....................     89     

VI. Soul Healing....................          

Day 17: I am disconnected from my soul....................     97     

VII. Inner Child Healing....................          

Day 18: My inner child is loved....................     103     

Day 19: My inner child wants to play....................     106     

VIII. Being at peace....................          

Day 20: I know how to be at peace with myself....................     111     

Day 21: I know how to be at peace with others....................     115     

Part III – Your chakras....................          

Nourishment for your chakras....................     119     

Looking forward to the future....................     123     

Stay in Touch....................     125     

Resources....................     127     

Reading Recommendations....................     129