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Confessions of an Adoptive Parent: Hope and Help from the Trenches of Foster Care and Adoption

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Confessions of an Adoptive Parent: Hope and Help from the Trenches of Foster Care and Adoption
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Know That You Are Not Alone on This Journey

Adopting or fostering a child brings its own unique set of challenges only another parent facing the same uphill climb could possibly understand. From parenting children with traumatic pasts, to dealing with attachment issues, to raising a child with special needs, it can sometimes be a struggle just getting through the day.

Mike Berry knows the loneliness and isolation you can easily feel in your particular parenting role—because he's been there. He's still there, and he wants to give you the hope and encouragement you so desperately need.

There are plenty of how-to guides out there on parenting, but this one-of-a-kind book is specifically designed to address your needs as a parent of an adopted or foster child. With a refreshing dose of honesty, empathy, and care, you'll discover you are definitely not alone on your journey and God has a very special plan for you and your family.

Know That You Are Not Alone on This Journey Adopting or fostering a child brings its own unique set of challenges only another parent facing the same uphill climb could possibly understand. From parenting children with traumatic pasts, to dealing with attachment issues, to raising a child with special needs, it can sometimes be a struggle just getting through the day. Mike Berry knows the loneliness and isolation you can easily feel in your particular parenting role—because he's been there. He's still there, and he wants to give you the hope and encouragement you so desperately need. There are plenty of how-to guides out there on parenting, but this one-of-a-kind book is specifically designed to address your needs as a parent of an adopted or foster child. With a refreshing dose of honesty, empathy, and care, you'll discover you are definitely not alone on your journey and God has a very special plan for you and your family.
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Sales Rank:
296,082
Pages:
224
Publication Date:
02/06/2018
ISBN13:
9780736970839
Product Dimensions:
5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x0.20(d)
Publisher:
Harvest House Publishers
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About the Author

Mike Berry is cocreator of the award-winning blog Confessions of an Adoptive Parent and the adoptive and foster support site Oasis Community. He's also a contributing writer for Disney's babble.com and TheGoodMenProject.com. Mike and his wife, Kristin, have cared for dozens of children through foster care and have adopted all eight of their children.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 11

Part 1 You Are Not Alone

1 Beginning with Hope 19

Identifying Your Expectations and Apprehensions

2 Jumping Off 39

The Joy and Struggle of Choosing This Journey

3 Learning to Swim 49

What to Do When You're In Over Your Head

4 Me Too 59

Finding Strength in Relationships

5 I Didn't Sign Up for This 75

Learning to Accept Your New Normal

6 The Middle of the Wreckage 85

Discovering Hope Where You Least Expect It

7 You Are Not Alone 97

The Healing Power of Shared Experience

Part 2 Finding Hope

8 The Story of Your Scars 109

Redefining Failure

9 The Voices in Our Heads 129

Overcoming Spiritual Attacks

10 Limping Together 141

Building an Effective Support System

11 Behind Every Cloud 157

Finding Light in Dark Times

12 Legends Versus Legacies 169

Your Influence Goes Deeper Than You Know

13 Remember Jeremiah 181

God Has a Plan for Your Child

14 A Girl Named Renee 193

The Transforming Power of Love and Compassion

15 Hope Has Arrived 207

God's Beautiful Story in You

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Editorial Reviews

"As an adoptee, I'm always a little leery of books about adoption because I don't know what angle they will take. Will they make adoptees sound like problem children? Will they come across bleak or disparaging? But after reading this book, I feel refreshed and encouraged. It's real and honest but filled with hope. I recommend it to any foster or adoptive parent (as well as adoptees!)."
Tony Wolf, author of Serve One



"As the father of three biological children, I never knew the challenges or the amazingness of being an adoptive or foster parent. In Confessions of an Adoptive Parent, Mike takes you on a journey filled with hope and accurately captures the beauty of being an adoptive parent. You will laugh, you will cry, and you will be filled with a sense of deep hope. It's a must-read for anyone on this journey, or considering it!"
Jackie Bledsoe, speaker and author of The 7 Rings of Marriage



"With rare transparency, Mike Berry reveals the raw realities of parenting adopted and foster kids. What a gift to adoptive parents to find validation and know they are not alone! This is a must-read for every adoptive and foster parent who needs edification and encouragement. Highly recommended."
Sherrie Eldridge, author of 20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew



"As Mike says, 'this journey is not meant to be lived alone.' Thanks to this book, it doesn't have to be. Confessions of an Adoptive Parent provides guidance and desperately needed comfort, healing and hope to parents who are struggling. I am grateful to reap the wisdom of Mike's authentic testimony; his words are laced with grace, conviction, and reassurance. Mike's transparency weaves together stories of pain that has been lifted by abundant purpose, and through his encouraging book, we come to recognize our real need for Jesus in our struggles and the intense beauty found in the mess."
Courtney Westlake, author of A Different Beautiful



"Doing good is simple and significant, but that does not mean it's easy. Mike reminds us that caring for vulnerable kids is in fact hard. However, he gives us the practical tools we need to find comfort and success as we struggle to love and bring hope to those who are in need of a healthy family."
Chris Marlow, founder and CEO of Help One Now, author of Doing Good Is Simple



"In Confessions of an Adoptive Parent, Mike Berry speaks right into that place seldom spoken of outside support groups huddled in church basements or conferences for foster and adoptive parents. His words are helpful, his words are true, and his words help us see our lives and work as parents in the proper perspective. Even though the road is long and sometimes grueling, Mike continually leads us back to the hope we have not only for our children's futures, but for all of us in Christ."
Amanda Bacon, co-creator of TheMasterpieceMom.com



"This book contains the words adoptive parents long for, plus many of the statements we are afraid to voice ourselves. Confessions of an Adoptive Parent is validating, reassuring, encouraging, and clearly written by someone who has slogged through the trenches of adoption and is still standing there, hip-deep, reaching out to help the stumbling. Mike Berry knows grief and grit, and he speaks our language."
Shannon Guerra, author of Upside Down: Understanding and Supporting Attachment in Adoptive Families



"Mike Berry shares his journey as a foster and adoptive parent with unmatched candor, humor, and insight. From uncertainty to optimism, reality to discouragement, and finally to a deep reservoir of hope, he walks parents through his story, giving us courage for our own. Confessions of an Adoptive Parent is a fresh reminder to parents in all phases of the foster and adoptive journey that we are not alone. There is a community ready to surround us and a loving God who will never leave us."
Lisa Qualls, writer/speaker/encourager at OneThankfulMom.com

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Beautifully raw. So thankful someone is talking about the hard of ...
Beautifully raw. So thankful someone is talking about the hard of adoption yet highlighting that there is still hope.
- Anonymous
April 10, 2018
I have followed the Berry’s blog for several years. When I heard t ...
I have followed the Berry’s blog for several years. When I heard there would be a book, I was thrilled. As an adoptive parent, there are few resources out there (especially written by other adoptive parents) that are specifically for us. Confessions of an Adoptive Parent is everything I thought it would be and more. It was as if I was having a cup of proverbial coffee and sharing life with a dear friend. In the midst of the struggles that come with adoption and foster care, this book was our very own form of “Me, too.” I laughed, I cried, I nodded my head, I journaled, and most of all, I was continuously reminded that I must not lose hope. Berry reminds us that hope can be found in the wreckage, in the beautiful, in the silence, in friendships, in “me, too”s, and in the past, present, and future. Hope must be held on to through it all. If you’re an adoptive or foster parent – RUN. Go get this book. Read it. Be reminded that you’re not alone. If you love an adoptive or foster parent – RUN. Get them this book. I’m telling you…we all need it.
- JosKeathley
January 30, 2018
Mike Berry’s book delivers all that the subtitle says and more! As ...
Mike Berry’s book delivers all that the subtitle says and more! As a long-term special needs parent, I found it amazingly hopeful with many ideas for setting up a support system to get the help you need. My kids are in their twenties now, doing really well, so technically I am no longer in the trenches (I survived!) and I so wish I’d had this book 15-20 years ago! But having it now is good too – I am a behavior consultant and often work with foster and adoptive parents, and this book gave me a huge amount of insight into that realm. I know it will enhance the support I can give to the families I work with. This book is also very spiritual in approach, and it helped to renew my faith, a totally unexpected result, but very wonderful. I highly recommend this book for all special needs families – foster, adoptive, or bio. It will buoy you up, and yes, fill you with hope.
- Tanya Savko
January 28, 2018
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