| A Word from Dr. Bill and Martha | ix |
Chapter 1 | Becoming Attached--How to Get There | 1 |
| What Is Attachment Parenting? | 2 |
| Seven Attachment Tools: The Baby B's | 3 |
| What Attachment Feels Like | 8 |
Chapter 2 | The Benefits of Attachment Parenting | 11 |
| AP Babies Are Smarter | 11 |
| AP Babies Are Healthier | 14 |
| AP Babies Grow Better | 16 |
| AP Babies Behave Better | 17 |
| AP Promotes Intimacy | 22 |
| AP Parents and Children Work Together Better | 23 |
| AP Promotes Empathy | 24 |
| AP Is Contemporary | 25 |
| The Payoff for Parents | 25 |
Chapter 3 | What Attachment Parenting Is Not | 26 |
| Clearing Up Misunderstandings | 26 |
| Myths About Attachment Parenting | 32 |
Chapter 4 | Bonding at Birth and Beyond | 36 |
| Bonding at Birth | 36 |
| Eight Tips for Better Bonding | 37 |
| Rooming-In: The Attachment Continues | 40 |
| How Rooming-In Builds Attachment | 43 |
| Bonding Blues | 45 |
| Homecoming: Ten Tips for Staying Attached the First Month | 47 |
Chapter 5 | Breastfeeding | 53 |
| Breastfeeding Makes Attachment Parenting Easier | 53 |
| Attachment Tips for Successful Breastfeeding | 57 |
| The Benefits of Long-Term Breastfeeding | 62 |
| Beware of the Breastfeeding Schedulers | 64 |
Chapter 6 | Babywearing | 65 |
| The Background to Babywearing | 65 |
| The Benefits of Babywearing | 68 |
| Siblings and Babywearing | 78 |
| Babywearing and Wearing Baby Down | 78 |
| Work and Wear | 79 |
| Babywearing for Subs | 79 |
Chapter 7 | Belief in the Signal Value of a Baby's Cry | 81 |
| Crying Is an Attachment Tool | 81 |
| Should Baby Cry It Out? | 84 |
| Advice for Parents Whose Babies Cry a Lot | 86 |
Chapter 8 | Bedding Close to Baby | 89 |
| Continuing Your Attachment at Night | 90 |
| Our Co-Sleeping Experiences | 91 |
| Why Bedding Close to Baby Works | 92 |
| Sharing Sleep: How to Make It Work | 95 |
| Moving Out: Weaning from Nighttime Attachment | 97 |
| Night Weaning from the Breast: Eleven Alternatives for the All-Night Nurser | 98 |
| Current Research into Sleep Sharing and SIDS | 102 |
Chapter 9 | Balance and Boundaries | 106 |
| Is Your Parenting Out of Balance?--How to Tell | 106 |
| Avoiding Mother Burnout | 112 |
| Rekindling the Flame | 116 |
| Stick With Attachment Parenting | 117 |
Chapter 10 | Beware of Baby Trainers | 119 |
| What's Wrong with Baby Training? | 120 |
| Does Baby Training Really Work? | 122 |
| Why Is Baby Training So Popular? | 123 |
| Handling Criticism | 125 |
Chapter 11 | Working and Staying Attached | 130 |
| A Tale of Two Mothers | 130 |
| Ten Tips for Working and Staying Attached | 133 |
| How a Baby Can Change a Mother's Career Plans | 141 |
Chapter 12 | Attachment Fathering | 143 |
| My Story: How I Became an Attached Dad | 144 |
| Nine Attachment Tips for Fathers | 146 |
| Where's Dad? | 152 |
| Father Feelings About Mother-Infant Attachment | 155 |
Chapter 13 | Attachment Parenting in Special Situations | 159 |
| Single and Attached | 159 |
| Adoption | 160 |
| Attachment Parenting the High-Need Child | 162 |
| Attachment Parenting a Child with Special Needs | 164 |
| Attachment Parenting Multiples | 166 |
Chapter 14 | Attachment Testimonials | 168 |
| Could a Mother Not Want This? | 168 |
| What Is a Good Baby? | 169 |
| A Gift for Dad | 170 |
| Working and Staying Attached | 170 |
| Sensitive Night Weaning | 171 |
| Understanding "Cries" | 172 |
| Compassion for Others | 174 |
| When Babies with Teeth Nurse and Sixteen-Year-Olds Drive | 175 |
| Resources | 177 |
| Index | 179 |